About Me

Real estate is never just square metres.

It is a place of memories, future plans, a reflection of relationships and sometimes also a touchstone for what connects us as a family or couple.

Bequeathing means much more than passing on assets. It is about responsibility, fairness and the question of how different life paths can be honoured. Between the will and the statement of assets lie care, doubts and often unspoken expectations. I help parents gain clarity – based on facts and emotional awareness – so that uncertainty can give way to trust and regulations can become viable solutions.

Inheritance, on the other hand, often brings old dynamics to the surface. A family home is not a neutral asset – it represents childhood, role distribution, closeness and sometimes old wounds. When siblings have to make decisions, it is rarely just about numbers. It is about recognition, fairness and being seen. Here, I create a protected space in which emotion and structure can coexist – so that conversations become possible and understanding can grow again.

Moving into an existing home is a sensitive transition. Rooms carry history, objects preserve memories. Newcomers are not only looking for space in the cupboard, but also a place in the lives of others. Between respect for the past and the desire for personal development, areas of tension arise that need to be carefully resolved. I support couples in consciously designing shared spaces – without repressing the old and without losing themselves.

Finally, the construction phase is often an emotionally underestimated process. What begins as a dream quickly becomes a series of complex decisions, time pressure and coordination processes. Misunderstandings with architects or project participants can trigger uncertainty and a loss of control. Here, I help to sort out needs, clarify communication and regain decision-making ability – so that overwhelm can be transformed back into creative joy.

As a real estate psychologist, I combine psychological expertise with communication skills and a deep understanding of living spaces. My training as a communications specialist, my psychology studies at the University of Hamburg and my membership in the Federal Association of German Psychologists form the professional foundation of my work.

With offices in Hamburg and Munich, I support clients in Germany, Austria and Switzerland – in a structured and empathetic manner, with a clear view of the dynamics that make real estate so much more than just property.

Because ultimately, it's not about houses.

It's about people – and what should endure between them.

Customer Testimonials

When we siblings inherited, it was about much more than money and a house. For me, it was the home of my childhood. For my siblings, it was something completely different – a place full of memories, expectations and old stories. When we inherited our parents' house together, we became painfully aware that we weren't arguing about numbers or walls. We were fighting for recognition, for fairness – and to be seen as siblings.

Old roles from childhood suddenly reappeared.Whoever was responsible, whoever felt overlooked, whoever felt they had carried more than the others. We had already made several attempts at mentoring. Conversations that were well-intentioned – but changed nothing. The tensions remained, the silence grew longer. When we finally received the recommendation for Ms Watolla, she was our last hope.

I booked her without knowing whether this path would really help us. With her guidance, we understood for the first time what inheriting had done to us as siblings. She created space for what had long had no place: feelings, hurts, unspoken expectations – and at the same time clear structures for the practical decisions surrounding our parents' house. Ms Watolla showed us that fairness in inheritance does not mean dividing everything up exactly equally. Instead, it means looking at different life paths, at what each of us has given – and at what is possible and appropriate today. In the discussions, we were able to express things that we ourselves could hardly put into words.

She mediated between closeness and clarity, between emotion and responsibility. In this way, confrontation turned back into conversation – and speechlessness slowly turned into understanding. In the end, we found a solution that feels fair to all of us.And we not only inherited together – we also regained a bit of trust as siblings."

When my wife and I thought about our inheritance, we realised that it wasn't just about drawing up a list of assets.

We have four children – and no two are alike. Different personalities, different life choices, different paths. One child completed their education and started standing on their own two feet at an early age. Another completed a long course of study, partly abroad, with financial support. Another plans to live abroad permanently, far away from the family. And each of these children has their own view of security, responsibility and fairness.

When we started thinking about our inheritance, it quickly became clear to us that these decisions could not be solved with a simple "divide everything equally". The realities of life are too different – and the unspoken expectations run too deep.

At the same time, we found it difficult to deal with the issue. It is sad to think about one's own mortality. And yet we felt an inner need to take responsibility – not only for our assets, but also for family harmony.

Ms Watolla was recommended to us in connection with our asset management. Her guidance helped us to take a new perspective: away from guilt and justification, towards an understanding of psychological dynamics. She showed us how differently children experience the same support – and how important it is to consciously consider these differences.

The question of when openness connects and when silence burdens was particularly helpful for us. In the end, we decided to inform our children at an early stage and involve them in the process. Not to negotiate everything – but to create transparency, appreciation and trust.

"The most important thing we learned from Ms Watolla is that inheritance is not an end, but a transition. And when the heart and mind work together, more than possessions remain – a connection remains."

When I moved into his house, I felt both excitement and uncertainty. It was a home steeped in history: furniture that told stories, rooms that smelled of habits, memories of people who were no longer there. I wanted to find my place, contribute my own ideas – but everything seemed so set in stone, as if the house had its own order that I wasn't allowed to disturb.

I soon realised that living together in an existing home is about more than just furnishings or space. It's about feelings, respect, the stories that live in the rooms. The largest room, the old display cabinet, even a lampshade – everything seemed set in stone. I realised that I was torn between respect for the past and my desire for personal development. I was on the verge of separating from my new partner, at least spatially.

With the support of real estate psychologist Ms Watolla, we found a way. She helped me understand the dynamics: that it is permissible to create something new without repressing the past. She showed us that you can consciously part with things – not as a loss, but as an opportunity to make room for your own story. Memories of deceased family members – we found ways to honour them without letting them hold us back.

This created spaces that suited us both: my work area in the former guest room, personal touches in the living room, shared rituals that make our life together stable and appreciative.

Today, I feel at home. I am part of this house without erasing its history. I have space for myself, and together we have created something new. Living together in a house with history can be healing – if you learn to let go, to integrate and to consciously create space for your own new life.

What began as a dream of a new home quickly became an emotional burden for me. The vision was clear, the ideas were grand – but in the day-to-day reality of the construction project, these images disappeared amid misunderstandings, stalled decisions and growing frustration. I soon realised that it wasn't the plans or the costs that were exhausting me, but the feeling of losing control.

Working with my architect became increasingly difficult. I often felt that I wasn't being listened to properly, while my uncertainties and concerns were perceived as constant changes or criticism. Decisions dragged on, small delays felt like insurmountable hurdles, and I found myself wondering more and more often whether I was still up to this project.

During this phase, Ms Watolla accompanied me – and that changed everything. She helped me sort out my own needs and expectations: What is really important to me? Which decisions are emotional, which are objective? Where are the misunderstandings – and how can I express them clearly?

At the same time, she moderated the discussions with my architect. With her calm, structured manner and her knowledge, she broke down deadlocked dynamics, created understanding on both sides and opened up a space in which decisions could be made objectively and respectfully. She translated, organised and helped me regain control of the process.

Thanks to her support, I regained the confidence I had lost. The project took shape, decisions became comprehensible and viable, and I no longer felt like a disruptive factor in my own construction process.

Today, my house is finished – it has become my dream home. Without the support of the real estate psychologist, this journey would have been much more difficult. She not only helped me master the process, but also made the house truly my home.

Heirs: Natascha, 61

Bequests: Mr and Mrs., aged 51 and 55

Moving in together: Saskia, 52

Construction phase with Carlos, 45